Talking to Your Family or Friends About Infertility
Finding support while dealing with infertility is critical.
That does not, however, mean it’s an easy process. Some people fear judgment (and rightfully so, as some loved ones seem incapable of reacting kindly or compassionately), while others are simply ashamed to talk about what they see as “abnormal” fertility struggles.
Despite that, however, confiding in people you love and trust is one of the best ways to integrate the infertility experience and open the window to healing.
Why Share Your Story?
When you’re dealing with infertility, it can feel like you’re suffering in silence. Since few people see what you’re going through, it feels like nobody knows. You’re left all alone, charged with making sense of the situation on your own. It doesn’t have to be this way, though. When you share your story, you do two things. The first is that you give people the opportunity to support and love you.
The second is that you remove the stigma associated with your infertility struggle, and open yourself up to resources, knowledge, input, and support. There is no shame in making your journey public. You’ll probably learn that some of your friends or loved ones have dealt (or are dealing) with the same situation.
Deciding Who to Tell
While sharing your story can be powerful, there are some caveats. Some people simply don’t know how to react to such personal information. It’s not that they don’t want to be helpful, but they may not know how.
Because of this, use some discretion as you decide who to tell. For example, telling your parents may be a good idea (and may generate lots of support and love for you and your partner), but telling your chatty coworker will probably only generate more harm than good.
If you can find other couples who have dealt with infertility, this will be a bonus, as they’ll know exactly what you’re going through.
Seeking Professional Support
Our team is experienced in all facets of infertility. We’re here to help you access the support you need, and gain a deeper understanding of your options. Contact us today to learn more about our services and find out how we can help you navigate this season of life.